Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man

“Harvey offers surprising insights into the male mentality and gives women strategies for taming that unruly beast.”
—Philadelphia Inquirer

“Women should listen to Steve Harvey when it comes to what a good man is about. Steve Harvey dispenses a lot of fabulous information about men.”
—Aretha Franklin

The #1 New York Times bestseller from the new guru of relationship advice, Steve Harvey’s Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man is an invaluable self-help book that can empower women everywhere to take control of their relationships. The host of a top-rated radio show listened to by millions daily—and of cable TV’s The Steve Harvey Project—Harvey knows what men really think about love, intimacy, and commitment. In Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, the author, media personality, and stand-up comedian gets serious, sharing his wealth of knowledge, insight, and no-nonsense advice for every good woman who wants to find a good man or make her current love last.

Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man - Steve Harvey Summary

Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man is a book by Steve Harvey which describes for women Harvey's concept of what men really think about love, relationships, intimacy, and commitment. He writes: "The problem for all too many women who call in to my radio show, though, is that they just can't get that reciprocation from men, and women then end up feeling disappointed, disenfranchised, and disillusioned by their failed relationships." "I teach them very quickly that expecting a man to respond to them the way a woman would is never going to work. They then realize that a clear-eyed, knowing approach to dealing with men on their terms, on their turf, in their way, can, in turn, get women exactly what they want."In his book, Harvey instructs women on how to be a "keeper" rather than a "sports fish". He asserts that men are "simple", and that women should understand that they can never be first in a man's life without understanding and accepting that men are driven by: Who they are What they do How much they makeHe says it's "just plain dumb" to let a man lock you into a monogamous premarital relationship, where you share a bed, bills, and even kids. The only way to convert your "committed relationship" into a marriage is to insist on setting a date for the wedding...

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Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man - Steve Harvey Book Reviews (2,533)


Fabulous5 star

It was a fabulous book! Love all the advice and real stories. Very helpful and I can't wait to read it again. 55


Great Read5 star

I wish I read it sooner, however I'm glad I read it. Entertaining and informative. Wonderful Read. 55

Debra Randles

Think Like a Man...4 star

An interesting book about men's perspectives on relationship issues done with humor and reverence, It is more about beginning relationships where children or blended families will be of concern and not so focused on divorcees with grown children. I love, love, LOVE all references to Steve's wife, Marjorie! 45


Great Read!5 star

I was looking through reviews about this book and some people dislike it. They've said they feel disgusted, offended, it's one sided, you name it, I'm sure they said it. But I love his book to be honest! He shines a light on men and what we women can do to get what we want from them and if they can't commit to their women then it's time for us to move on, and find that love we deserve elsewhere. This book is empowering to women. He doesn't say men are perfect just that they have some work to do, and to make them better us women can help men become better for us. Also, he gives advice and tips on how to act around men on a date or when things aren't necessarily going right in a relationship. I think he makes really valid points and this book is a great read ! I absolutely recommend! 55


Great read. Very enlightening.4 star

Wow. All the negative 1 star reviewers stating that this book is degrading is crazy feminist that don't need men anyway. It was actually quite the opposite. This book encouraged women to maintain standards and self respect. He never said ALL MEN CHEAT. And sure, not all men are the same. This read was a great summary of their general characteristics. I have dated quite a bit. I am currently married and have been with my husband for 7 years. I have read other blogs and articles on psychology website about how men are hard wired. Through that and my personal experience, this book was spot on! I read the whole thing in a few hours tonight. Even if you disagree with some points, it's definitely thought provoking. 45


Loved It (A relationship works both ways)5 star

I feel like a lot of women who reads this book will take it the wrong way. Most are probably feminist. (I agree with feminist 98% of the time) They might be offended on how Steve Harvey tells the women to basically surrender to the man. They also have to realize he says unless the man surrenders to you AND this is his way of doing it. If the shoe was on the other foot & this book was about women, our excuse would be --- since a man loves us he has to put up with the BS we come with. (mood swings, attitudes, emotional, nagging, wanting, how we sometimes express ourselves, how we just want men to know whats wrong and be treated like a queen [because Steve Harvey strongly expresses how men want to be treated like kings] and ect. -- then it would be okay? All relationships needs compromise. Dont love the person on how you think you should love them. Love them the way that they want to be loved. He used a great example on how AFTER his wife became his wife (which means he did his job as a man) she gave up something just for him, not because he asked, but because she wanted to. He's just saying things like that means a lot to men. Me, I love it. Some of this stuff of course I was like "Hxll NO" lol. After him explaining his reasons I had to be open-minded enough to understand where he was coming from because we women have our flaws too that we expect men to compromise with. A relationship works both ways 55


The missing link...5 star

Thank you Steve, Marjorie and God for writing this book. Simple to the point writing with confirmations from almost any other scenario. After years of trying to understand the difference in the sexes...this was the missing link! I am comfortable now, finally and have direction for myself and family;) 55

Mariana LEAO

A "must read" !5 star

Fantastic !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 55


Really good points made and straight to the point4 star

This book is a great read. It took me a minute to read it because I wasn’t in the right ‘head space’ to take it all in. I saw the movie and loved it and I love the book as well. It reminded me that I’m not crazy or picky or that my standards are too high. I am worth it and deserve a good man who sees and respects my value. This book is especially great for anyone who has experienced a really bad break up and is just getting back into the dating scene. 45


Omg !!!!!5 star

Can't get enough of this book ! Love it 55


Chapter 35 star

I have been reading this book at times where I am not busy being a single mother and working and so far I have gotten to chapter 3 of this book and when I say it is hard to put my iPad down and tend to my duties it is hard i am enjoying this book and here is more feedback to come as I read on 55


Love it5 star

This book was a great read. This is my second time reading it. I am telling all my girl friends about it. 55


Great insight!5 star

After watching the movie, I was intrigued and wanted to learn more about how men think and why they behave as they do. I've read other books on this topic, but Steve's direct, simply and honest insight impressed me. As a divorced, middle-aged woman facing the dating scene again, I really appreciated Steve's encouragement on setting standards for myself right away. Also, understanding what men are thinking and want from a woman from day one really helped me understand the disparity between what men say and what they actually do. I've recommended this book to all my female friends. A must read for any woman who is dating! Thank you, Steve! 55

Kasia Nay Nay

Just buy the book!5 star

It is really worth every penny. It's worth thousands actually. I recommend this book to every woman out there. I read this book in 2 days that's how much I loved it. Easy to read and funny too. You will learn a LOT. 55


this IS the relationship manual...5 star

This book has helped me so much with men. I thought I knew men and understood them, but I only knew what they wanted me to see... Just the tip of the iceberg. I can say that I will follow this book and to many other women who are seeking help. I highly recommend this book. Because it will show you what you are doing wrong and how you can improve it. I know this cause I'm already putting it to the test myself and it's working like a charm. And it's wonderful read too. I have learned a lot from it. 55

Miss Oinksters

Huh!5 star

This is what I'm talking about!!!!!!!! 55


Think Like a Man!5 star

Great book with some really solid advice for those who truly want to know more into the mindset of men. For those lonely hearts who say this book is not a help, you will probably always be alone, check yourself. This has nothing to do with your educational background or level. To the person who said it's neither good nor bad, like everyone, that's your personal opinion. I don't think Steve was trying to give the 100% train ride into each man's mind, as each person is an individual, I think he did a VERY GOOD job of laying out the basics into psyche of most every man. Take what works for you from this book, I promise it WILL open your eyes :) Way to go STEVE!!!! 55


Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man5 star

This is a funny, yet very informative read. I loved Steve Harvey's ability to be frank and candid on issues that really matter in a relationship. I have learned a lot! 55


MS4 star

Wisdom in a nutshell, ladies. Use it to get what you really want and deserve, or to figure it out! 45


Great read5 star

Great. Read very insiteful 55

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