Why Does He Do That?

In this groundbreaking bestseller, Lundy Bancroft—a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men—uses his knowledge about how abusers think to help women recognize when they are being controlled or devalued, and to find ways to get free of an abusive relationship.

He says he loves you. So...why does he do that?

You’ve asked yourself this question again and again. Now you have the chance to see inside the minds of angry and controlling men—and change your life. In Why Does He Do That? you will learn about:
• The early warning signs of abuse
• The nature of abusive thinking
• Myths about abusers
• Ten abusive personality types
• The role of drugs and alcohol
• What you can fix, and what you can’t
• And how to get out of an abusive relationship safely

“This is without a doubt the most informative and useful book yet written on the subject of abusive men. Women who are armed with the insights found in these pages will be on the road to recovering control of their lives.”—Jay G. Silverman, Ph.D., Director, Violence Prevention Programs, Harvard School of Public Health

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A Must Read for ALL5 star

After just leaving an abusive man this book opened my eyes. I like many other survivors made excuses like 'he had a horrible childhood' or 'he bottles up his anger and doesn't know how to handle it' or 'if I just don't push his buttons life will be calm again' and the list goes on and on. There were good times when he was the most loving, tender, kindest man in the world. During those times he made me feel like I was the most special woman in the world. It all seemed so sincere, but then he'd abuse again a short while later. It was a vicious cycle. This book showed me that was all part of his abuse pattern. This book will help you see inside of his head. What you think he's thinking isn't the case. It's nothing like you thought. At least it wasn't for me and I think I'm a pretty average middle class American female. It answered so many questions and misconceptions I had & I fully recommend all ladies read it. Knowledge is power. I hope & pray you read it and find strength and courage to escape. Once I saw what he really thought of me & why he acted that way, I got out quick. And I don't regret leaving, not one bit. I get stronger every day I'm away from him & you will too. 55

Christina lazza

Amazing and eye opening5 star

This book is an abuse bible! Every therapist should have it, should be required to read it. This is the only book I've ever known that explains and really understands the privates of an abuse relationship. This book saved my life and the lives of my kids! Thank you Lundy!!! 55

Maureen Kruse

Why does he do that5 star

Excellent book providing information and validation to all those who have been abused. 55


Opening your eyes5 star

Wow, I was so unaware. This is a must read for everyone not just an abused person. 55


Why does he do that?5 star

Outstanding book, a must read for all therapists working in the field today. This book gives clear voice to the story clients are trying to tell. 55

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